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Michelle LeClerc's avatar

I'm so happy to see these issues pointed out, and so well examined. Members of my community had similar issues with our local mom group and community group, so we started a new one of each. We carefully laid out rules in order to foster a safe space. Simple things like discouraging gaslighting, victim blaming, and tone policing, which are often used against marginalized groups. What we noticed immediately was a jump in people willing to make posts that are met with microaggression on other platforms. It's a lot of work, but if anyone reading this has the bandwidth to create a safe online space for their community, I highly recommend it!

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Wendy's avatar

This is really good and makes me think about the scourge of HOAs. I hate the concept of HOAs in general, so I'm biased about this topic, but I do think it's interesting how drawn some people are to having the rules of what being "neighborly" looks like be really, really overt and specific. I think it speaks to how uncomfortable some people are with ambiguity around shared spaces or having to live with/near people who use their space differently/have different aesthetic preferences.

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